Unearth Me
S.H.I.F.T.
Accountability Program Intensives
Self Healing, Inspiring Future Transformation (SHIFT) is an evidence-based transformation program designed for individuals who have caused harm in their intimate relationships.
Why choose SHIFT?
SHIFT is for individuals who have acted in ways that caused hurt, harm or conflict in their intimate relationship, and who are seeking new conscious and responsible ways of being in relationship, whether it be with their spouse, ex-spouse, intimate partner or co-parent.
Most people come to SHIFT because they are facing a crisis or a break-up of their relationship. For some people, it’s not fully their choice to work on themselves, rather an outside entity, maybe their partner or a Court, is making them take a program. Some people come to SHIFT because they are seeking a “BIP” or “Domestic Violence Accountability Program.” Zelia is a certified BIP provider in the State of Wisconsin.
Regardless how a person comes to SHIFT, we listen and we understand.
At SHIFT we are not about blame, shame or judgment. We are about getting real and taking conscious responsibility for choices and behavior.
Understanding does not mean we make or accept excuses for harm, rather it means we understand root causes of hurtful behavior. Our work is about unearthing, exploring and transforming what lies beneath the harm.
We are a program that knows that valuing compassion in equal measure (no more and no less) as accountability is crucial for lasting impact. Without compassion, accountability programs run the risk of repeating the same tendencies toward coercive power rather than shared power.
SHIFT is a program that provides compassionate, effective services, and is designed with up-to-date knowledge and a foundation in healing centered practice.
SHIFT is a program tailored to meet the needs of clients seeking discreet and expedited services, providing a confidential and efficient path to support and transformation.
Service Packages
Small Group
Individual Services
WEEKEND GROUP INTENSIVE*
$2,850
Friday, Saturday, Sunday
Up to 4 individuals in small group
4 night stay
Personalized Archeological Self-Report
24 hours of service
5-DAY GROUP INTENSIVE**
$5,750
Flexible scheduling
Up to 4 individuals in small group
6 night stay
40 hours of service
Personalized Archeological Self-Report
Deep trauma resolution work
3-DAY INDIVIDUAL INTENSIVE*
$5,850
Flexible scheduling
4 night stay
24 hours of service
Personalized Archeological Self-Report
5-DAY INDIVIDUAL INTENSIVE**
$9,750
Flexible scheduling
6 night stay
40 hours of service
Personalized Archeological Self-Report
Deep trauma resolution work
All packages include a private room at a retreat setting in Southeast Wisconsin. All meals will be provided.
* 3-day programming is suitable for those seeking services as a condition of a diversion, deferred prosecution agreement, or deferred conviction agreement
** 5-day programming is suitable for those that are required to complete a Wisconsin State Certified BIP program
Shift Philosophy & Method
At Zelia, we believe that all of us are born whole—loving, loveable, capable, worthy, enough. No baby comes into this world with the intent or purpose to grow-up and cause harm to the people in their family, their children, the person they love, their intimate partner.
But yet we know that people who come to the SHIFT Program have caused harm to those they love, and have acted in ways disconnected from the essential wholeness into which they were born.
What happens during a person's development that disconnects them from their true self?
Human Development & Trauma
Humans develop in response to their surroundings as babies, and these environments affect their self-concept, worldview, and behaviors.
When fundamental needs like attunement, safety, and nurturing aren’t met, it leads to adverse developmental impacts that carry into adulthood and simmer below the surface. The behaviors that are a result of a child figuring out how to get their physical and emotional needs met may manifest in adulthood in ways that harm themselves or others.
As a trauma-informed and healing centered program, at Zelia, we believe it is our job to support people in the journey of healing and transformation to become cycle breakers.
Abundant research in trauma science demonstrates this approach is evidence-informed, and practical experience tells us it is the right fit to the realities of people’s lives.
Science teaches us that changing these behaviors is not as simple as learning new attitudes, values and skills. Trauma is a wound of development, rooted in emotional pain and lodged within our brain, body and nervous system. If we don’t resolve the pain and its impacts, then when the pain is activated, when it’s triggered –and it will be– we will respond with our habitual survival-based coping mechanisms
The only way out of trauma is to heal.
To be clear, understanding trauma as a root cause of the cycle of hurt and harm does not provide an excuse for the perpetration of harmful behavior nor does it cast blame toward people being victimized. Rather it offers an explanation of the behavior—a strong, evidence-based, compelling explanation, that also helps us understand the way out.
Milwaukee, WI 53202-4909
United States
